Do Black men have what it takes to keep a black woman happy?

My answer....HELL NO!! And the same goes vise versa. I'm sorry if I sound retarded are like a sell out. I have never seen a black women cry more over what a black man has done to her in my life! It is sad that my fellow brothers are not trying hard to keep us happy. Is it because black women have instilled the notion that we are independent and strong so we don't need a man to keep us happy? Is it because a black man who grew up in a single family home has seen his mother cry all the time about the men in her life, so he thinks it is normal for a women to act this way? Or I'm a narrow minded, bitter black woman who has yet to experience the love of a black man?

Are women becoming desperate nowadays because of the scarcity of men?

Well, I have a story, pretty interesting story....some of you guys may like it, some you guys will feel offense because this story may pertain to you and your love life and some of you guys may wonder what commons sense do these people have......let us begin, shall we?

I have a friend, lets call her Maya. Maya, has always had a boyfriend for as long as I can remember, if she is not taken, she would do what is called serial dating,. It is like she has to be with someone of the opposite sex at all times. Just recently, she has been dating this man, ( I guess you can call him that..) for about five months now. Let's call him Mike. Now, a little bit of a history about Mike. He is four years older than she is, he works but doesn't make a lot of money, his mama kicked him out and she moved to a one bedroom apartment so that he doesn't move in, he has a daughter, so you know that there is some baby mama drama going on. This is the guy she is dating...you know...I don't hate nor do I discriminate...

Now, after two months of being together, Mike is in trouble because his mama kicked him out, so he asks Maya if he can move in with her. In a heartbeat, Maya says yes, so he moves in. He does not pay any rent or pay any bills. Mike feels that because Maya makes more money than he does, he is not obligated to pay any rent or bills. (Now I see why his ass was kicked out from his mama's house!)

Now after living together, he has been secretly talking to the mother of his child at work (Maya, Mike and the baby mama all work at the same place). Maya finds out and she is furious. He claims that he has to be in good terms with the mother of his child because of the child. Maya understands this, but what she doesn't understand is why is he always talking to her, going to her house, even when the child is in school..what reasons does he have for that? Mike claims that Maya is being unfair so he breaks up with her.

.......Now, this is the part that really grinds my gears! He had the audacity to ask her if he can still stay with her..RENT FREE! Now, I am not the one to have a heart once my heart is broken. If that was me..I would have gone LAPD on his behind..literally!...But do you know what Maya said...."Ok, you can still stay". WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!

Now when she told me this..I wanted to smother her with my couch pillow. I was appalled! I asked her why and she told me "Well, he would be homeless if I kick him out" My next question was, "Did you give him a time frame, like a week, 2 weeks tops to stay with you? She said no. SHE SAID NO!!!! That was it for me, I couldn't take it anymore, I literally had to use the bathroom to vomit out all of the rubbish that she told me. Her plan is that if he sees how much she cares for him, he would come back to her. His plan is to live rent free with a female and he would do or say whatever he can to keep it that way. (Dang Maya, talk about being desperate!)

What would you do if you were in a situation like this? Would you kick him out? Would he let him stay rent free? Would you be like me and put him on blast for being the scrub of all scrubs? Do you think he has had this plan set for the very beginning?

Is Child Support really the best interest of the child or is it just greed?

OK, so I know you guys are probably thinking about what the hell am I talking about. If the man is the father, he is obligated to pay child support, that is, if he is not married to you. The satisfaction of getting that check every week..$140, $150, $170 per week, feels good because you know that you and your child will eat for that week. I mean, it cannot replace the natural bond of a father and a child, but hey, beggars can't be choosers, or can they.....? For many that would argue, child support is in the best interest of the child. The mother (or the father is some cases) has to make sure that the child is fully clothed, has food to eat and a roof over their heads. Now, it is one thing to argue that when the mother knows who the father is or a DNA has been proven. But what about those mothers that falsely accuse an old boyfriend or fling that the baby is theirs, knowing damn well that the baby is not theirs? She goes to court, files for child support because government assistance is not enough to keep up with her hair appointments, picks a name out of the hat, and then..BANG! The next thing you know, there are garnishments that has taken half of this poor guys paycheck and he does not know why! He tries to fight it, but because of how society perceives men, it is going to be extremely hard to fight it.

Now, she is getting this weekly paycheck, she feels no remorse about what she did, knowing why and how she did it. While she is gaining, the poor guy who actually has a family that he takes care off, has to suffer. Now, when he finds out that the garnishments are from child support and he files a petition for a DNA and it comes back negative, would the child support payments stop? Not in most cases....whether or not he is the father, once those payments are garnished there is no stopping...because it is at the "best interest of the child."

Now, for the women that do this, is it really at the best interest of the child or is it just greed on their part? Is it because maybe the real father is unemployed and she needs more money coming in? Is it because she feels that he is obligated as a man to help her raise a child that is not his? Is it because women in this society has been given too much leeway? too much freedom? too much sympathy? What is it? Please tell me because I have never been more disgusted then I am right now!